Because as humans, we need to belong. To one another, to our friends and families, to our culture and country, to our world. Belonging is primal, fundamental to our sense of happiness and well-being. Belonging is a psychological lever that has broad consequences, writes Walton.
Those who find themselves not fitting into society are often people who suffer from a social anxiety disorder. They find it difficult to communicate with people, thus they avoid it at all costs. However, that, in turn, can make them fall into a state of depression.
Tips on how to act normal:
- Think of somebody you know and admire who behaves normally in the situations in which you do not and act like them in confronting the fear.
- Think of this as a fake it 'til ya' make it strategy.
- Try to laugh at yourself more often when it's deserved – because that too is normal.
Humans, because of necessity, evolved into social beings. Dependence on and cooperation with each other enhanced our ability to survive under harsh environmental circumstances. Although the survival threats of these circumstances have lessened in today's world, people continue to have a need to affiliate with others.
: not fit: a : not adapted to a purpose : unsuitable. b : not qualified : incapable, incompetent. c : physically or mentally unsound.
Become extremely upset. For example, She'll have a fit when she sees Anne wearing the same dress, or Mom had a conniption fit when she heard about the broken mirror, or Don't take a fit—the car's not really damaged, or Jill was having kittens over the spoiled cake.
to belong with other things
- [S] [T] The water is not fit to drink. ( CK)
- [S] [T] These shoes don't fit my feet. ( CK)
- [S] [T] This belt fits me too tightly.
- [S] [T] He fitted his schedule to mine. (
- [S] [T] That sword is fit for a prince. (
- [S] [T] The food here isn't fit to eat. (
- [S] [T] This shirt doesn't fit anymore. (
- [S] [T] Try this on.
What is another word for fitting in?
| assimilating | integrating |
|---|
| fitting | harmonizingUS |
| becoming habituated | orienting oneself in |
| becoming naturalized | harmonisingUK |
| getting used | resigning oneself |
Know the Difference between Fitting in and BelongingIn a nutshell, the main difference between fitting in and belonging is that you don't need anyone or anything else to give you a sense of belonging. It doesn't matter whether others choose to accept you.
But if you're like me,
fitting in is not so easy.
It just takes the right approach:
- Start quiet and just do the work.
- Volunteer for the worst jobs.
- Ask for help that only requires words.
- Ask to help in ways that require more than words.
- Help other people feel they belong.
To stand out is to attract attention, either for the way you look or behave, or because you perform better at something than other people do.
(with someone or something) to be comfortable with someone or something; to be in accord or harmony with someone or something. I really feel as if I fit in with that group of people. It's good that you fit in.
In fact, we laughed as we said that not fitting in is a really good thing. Feeling like you don't fit in with the crowd teaches you to see and appreciate differences in people. It teaches you empathy and compassion for others who are on the outside. It gives you eyes to see things that the crowd, can so easily miss.
- Membership Benefit: A Sense of Belonging and Community.
- 8 Ways to Help Members Feel a Sense of Belonging.
- #1: New member onboarding.
- #2: Online meetups.
- #3: Local meetups.
- #4: Member buddy programs.
- #5: Niche groups.
- #6: Online community.
